Happy New Year!!! How to create LASTING changes Part 1

Happy New Year!!!  How to create LASTING changes Part 1

Happy New Year! 

It's the time of year many people are making resolutions left and right. We all have grand intentions at this time, but how often do we keep the focus on making those changes we say we want? 

Not very often for many of us! 

Resolutions never come to pass unless the resolve to truly create the change is strong. Change doesn't happen easily. We all have this thing called a paradigm. (Pair a dime... like 20 cents, you know?)
A paradigm is like a comfort zone and a belief system mixed together. We have habits, routines and worn pathways in our normal existence and it is easy to go along day to day on the same path without really paying attention. 

Many people are perfectly happy living in their comfortable routine and that's fine. In my opinion, being happy and content in life is THE most important thing! So kudos to the happy people! How many people are truly happy? Are YOU completely satisfied, content and happy in all areas of your life? Do you wish you had something you don't have, or didn't have to do something you feel like you have to do? 

Do you not even know how you feel because you're just trotting along on the hamster wheel of life with no time to think about it? 

When our happiness and contentment become frustration and longing, the Universe is trying to tell us to DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT!!! 

Longing and discontent are signs there is more happiness and more contentment OUTSIDE our current situation. We just have to say "yes" and make some changes to bring it forth.

Change is good, but our paradigm does NOT like it! The subconscious mind controls the paradigm and likes to keep a tight rein on it. When we try to deviate from our normal routine, red flags, warning bells and iron bars all become activated to get us to STOP IMMEDIATELY. 

This message from our subconscious to stop immediately typically shows up for our conscious self as confusion, doubt and fear. These are all uncomfortable feelings, and if we aren't truly committed to making the change, it is much easier to just casually turn around and head back into the comfort zone. 

Bye bye resolutions!! Maybe next year!

Hold it, not so fast! 

There is a way to traverse change that diminishes the discomfort! 

Have you wondered why some people are so amazingly successful and seem to always achieve whatever they desire? It is because they know the "secret sauce" formula for lasting success!

I have been using this proven, repeatable system for years and it always works, and I'm going to share it here now so pay attention! :)

  1. Start noticing what you notice on a regular basis. There is a part of the brain that looks for more of what you are focusing on. So, if unconsciously noticing negativity is what you do all the time, your brain is going to search for more things to be negative about. All. The. Time. 
  2.  Once you become aware of your current focus, you can start working on changing it up. The most powerful way to "up-level" your focus is to always choose gratitude. Be grateful for EVERY SINGLE THING. That part of your brain will then start looking for more things to be grateful for! 
  3. Now that you aren't in the doldrums constantly being bombarded with negativity, you will find you have more energy and maybe even a spring in your step. You can start to pay attention to your longings and discontents. As you go about your day, just notice how you feel about things going on around you and what you are doing. How do you feel about people, places, situations? You will start to notice a very different "feeling" when you are drawn to things and feel good about something than things you don't want to do and situations you don't like. 
  4. Recognizing the difference between the good "I want more of this" and the bad "I don't like this" feeling is the key to living a happier and more content life. Once you know the difference, you simply put your focus on energy towards the good, which will eventually crowd out the bad. You will start to notice you feel content and happy more often than not. You begin to make decisions by asking yourself "What would I LOVE?" 

When you start asking "What would I love?" and putting your time, focus and energy towards the answer, making lifestyle changes is so much easier. 

This is the first part of the proven, repeatable system I mentioned above. It is not just a system, it is a way of living and being. Stay tuned for part two coming soon! 

If you are ready to really dive into transforming your life from "ok" to "wow" I would love to support you! You can sign up for a complementary Dream Clarity Session and we can talk about how I can help :)

What is a 1st Rate Life all about?

What is a 1st Rate Life all about?

What IS a 1st Rate Life all about?

Life is short, and living it in a 1st Rate way should be what ALL of us are doing on a daily basis.  Sadly, many...probably MOST...of the humans on the planet are not. 

The normal way of living for the masses is filled with struggle, worry and settling for what seems to be the best option. Most people don't even seem to realize there is an option to break free of the mediocre and lean in to the marvelous. Many people think working until retirement, THEN doing what they desire is the dream and spend the most vibrant years of life in perpetual "waiting to get old enough to retire" mode. If they are lucky, they make it and have a few years of bliss before succumbing to old age, sickness or even death. 

What if there is a better way? Why not start "really living" right this moment? Why not start creating your ideal 1st rate life right now!

According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of "first-rate" is "of the first order of size, importance, or quality."    

So, living a 1st Rate Life simply means living the highest quality of life possible. Since every person is different, a 1st Rate Life is going to look different for every single person. 

If I were to ask you right now, "Do you LOVE your life?" what is the first response that pops into your mind? 

  • Do you snort sarcastically because you don't love it but feel like it is your destiny and you have no other option?
  • Do you wince and think of all the things you DO NOT LOVE about your life, but can't really come up with much that you DO love? 
  • Do you think of some things you love, but some things that really could be better? 
  • Do you get a huge warm fuzzy feeling and think 'YES, I LOVE MY LIFE!' ?  (if so, YAY you!!!)
Maybe you're relationship with your life is somewhere in the middle. That is perfectly ok, but know this...

If you would like to uplevel to being able to say
"I LOVE MY LIFE," you absolutely have the power to do it. I did it and you can too! 
In 2011, I walked away from a perfectly good career because I couldn't stand the idea of going to that cubicle five days a week, 52 weeks a year for the next 20 plus years until I could retire.
I made decent money, had GREAT benefits, and was on a smooth ride to retirement, but when I pictured what the next number of years between where I was and where I could retire looked like, I felt my soul deflate a little every time the thought came up.

So I resigned. The story of how that happened is for another day, but it was a terrifying moment and I wondered if I'd gone insane as I walked across the office with my resignation letter in hand to give to my supervisor.  Then, as soon as I handed it to her, and the deed was done, I felt lighter and had a sparkle of hope where before there had been only frustration and longing.  I was still terrified and thought I'd lost my mind, but suddenly my slate was completely wiped clean and I had a new story to write, and that felt amazing!

The first step in creating my 1st Rate Life was making a decision to choose the unknown over the safe and same.  I chose fear over meaningless routine.  I chose to hop out of the box of what was considered normal and expected.

It was the BEST decision I have ever made, my life is SO MUCH BETTER now. Every day I am creating the first rate life I desire and am worthy of.  I now live in the flow of fun, curiosity, adventure and love every single day. Do I still have challenges and bad days? Absolutely. But now I have a much healthier, easier way of dealing with them and getting back into the flow of feeling good quicker than I ever used to.  

Do you have a vision for your own First Rate Life? Do you have a plan to get there?

Do you find yourself frustrated with your current life but not sure what you would even want to change to make it better?

If you answered yes to either of these questions, I can help! Sign up for a complementary dream clarity session with me today here !


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